I don’t understand men. Really, I don’t.
God knows I’ve tried! Tonight two different men have exasperated me. You know who you are. The neediness, the pompeousness, the obnoxiousness of it all just exasperates me to the point where I’d like to avoid talking to men altogether. It’d make my life so much easier.
I have the nasty habit of not moving on, of clinging to the past no matter what.
Do you still chat to your ex-boyfriends? Have phone conversations with them and go out to dinner parties with them? No? Well I do. “Stupid!” I hear you say? Well, I know that. But that’s just how I am. I need to have everyone like me before I can start hating them. I’ve never just simply “stopped” talking to anyone that was close to me at one point in my life. I don’t know why I can’t do it. It should be as simple as saying “Goodbye!”.
But tonight I’m taking a mid-year resolution. I’m saying bye to the past and saying hello to the future. One cannot move on while still looking back.
Anonymously yours has recently prompted me to wonder what type of men I should start dating.
I’d like to start by nationalities so that we can narrow them down;
-Turkish Men-: hah! HAH! Right. So. I’ve dated a couple of Turkish men and it always ended in a natural disaster. Don’t let a couple of rotten apples spoil the fun I hear you say, I am so letting it spoil the fun.
-British Men-: I’m smitten for the Irish accent. Then again I do have a fetish for several other accents. What a weird fetish to have. British men are sometimes weird. I work with too many of them to even consider wanting to have one waiting for me at home when I get back from a hard days work. My best friend is English though, he’s probably the only man I’m happy and grateful to have in my life right now. Apart from the carrot. But he’s not British. Geez, we’ve gone totally off track. Anyhow.
-Australian Men-: I fell hard for an Australian. Then I fell hard for another one. Then I decided that it was time to retire from Australians. Once I’m completely over the last one we’re done guys, no more downunder loving for me. Their accent is a turn on though.
-American Men-: I’m not too sure about this one. I’m not around enough Americans to pass judgment. Then again Bush makes a good point of spoiling it for all the others.
-Belgian Men-: I might be half Belgian but you will never catch me dating one of my own. I’m ready to sign that off with my blood.
I know that leaves me with plenty of other nations but I’m so put off the whole dating thing that I think I’d rather get a dog that’d pretend to be a cat and grow old alone. (I’m allergic to cats, remember?)
Idil, I think it’s great that you remain on good terms with your ex-boyfriends. I just prefer to think that none of mine ever got over me, and that I still occupy their minds. It’s my way of making myself feel better – by believing that they are filled with remorse and regret over the break-up.
hmmmm.. im knocked off 2 lists.. aussie and turk.. oh well.. maybe idil its time to turn lesbian.. just a thought..
What’s this about two Aussies? I know of one. Who is the other?
When it comes to Americans, I believe your page title sums it up well – ‘Ignore us if you can’.
Personally I find most Americans to be moronic but the ones that excel far from the majority are worth a look IMO.
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Hi Idil,
I am a Turkish girl, (really like your blog), dating an American. I have dated every nationality of men thus far, and am far happier with my Anglo Americano! He is attentive, thoughtful, kind, gentle and very funny! I have dated and nearly married and married many different types of Turkish men (tall, short, dark, light, blonde, brunette, redhead, older, younger, same age, students, professionals, from all various regions, Jewish Turks, Christian Turks and Muslim Turks, as an example), Turkish men tend to be a bit more self centered, love to chase you, flirt with you, and when they are tired with you, they move on (and quickly!!), Turkish men are charming and affectionate, but this generally wears off once they “conquer” you in every sense of the word. I do not want to generalise, but Turkish men are largely raised in this manner, their mothers are doting and their fathers teach them that real men act like this…it is a sad state of affairs, but I have hope that things will get better, at least with the new generation of globalised and worldy young Turks. Ex-boyfriends are great until they get connected again…then you might want to stay away, (or you might be forced to!)
Oh, and it is a joke in Turkey that Turkish girls have a thing for Aussies and Brits!
American men are not half bad, not as moody, cocky, arrogant or macho as Turkish men, but yet still very manly and masculine.
An Anglo American.. That sounds like a combination I haven’t tried as of yet. It sounds rather exotic
Turkish girls are often expected to settle down – generally for less – with Turkish men. Thankfully I do not have that problem. My father being Belgian, I will be allowed to chose a groom amongst the many nationalities that populate our semi green earth. I’m wrapped. Can’t wait. (Did I sound a bit over enthusiast? Really, I’m not. Men give me the itchies as of late.)
I’ve got a 17 year old sister and when I look at her friends/boyfriends, I see a hint of hope in their eyes. Maybe they won’t be as bad as all the previous batches in their love trysts?
One can only hope for the next generations to come.
Thanks for your comment Asli
Love,
-Idil
i like this blog
it made me smile.. i’m an American girl dating a Turkish guy. i have had THE WORST LUCK with American guys..they are so cocky, and all of my serious relationships with them have ended because of them being verbally abusive..many times, verbal abuse turns into emotional abuse, then physical…but i met this Turkish man and he is the most amazing person i’ve ever met!! hands down!!and our relationship is AWESOME!! i havent tried Australian, British or Belgium men…but i say Turkish is the way to go!!!
-good luck finding “the guy”
~Rachel
turkish men are sweet loving and doting,,yes but when you realize it is because he wants a green card and plans on bring his wife and kids to america after he divorces you 3 yrs later than they take on a whole new look…..and you gotta love the so called language barrier he will use to play dumb when you confront him on it…..beware american girls they are on a mission and we are the targets us and our ability to make them legal…..